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Get Your Teen to Clean #AdriansCrazyLife - Simple technique to get your teen to do their chores.

One of the toughest parenting tasks is to get your kids to do their chores.  Let’s face it; for most kids, chores are just not on their radar.  A ten year old just doesn’t see taking out the trash as a priority.  And it gets even harder with teenagers.  Sometimes trying to teach a teen to clean is like teaching a pig to sing – it wastes your time and just annoys the pig.

A Technique that Works to Get Teens to do Their Chores

So, what’s a parent to do?  I think most parents have discovered that nagging and lectures just aren’t effective.  Why not try a totally different tactic?  Simple appreciation.

One of my managers had a sign in his office that stated this principle perfectly. It said:

Actions that are recognized and rewarded will be repeated

What a great saying.  But read it closely.  Notice that it doesn’t just say positive actions.  It means any type of action – positive OR negative.

If you reward your child for whining by giving him what he wants, that negative action will be repeated.  If you reward your daughter by ignoring her breaking of a rule, that action will be repeated also.  Similarly, if you allow a child (or a husband!) to slide by on an assigned chore without consequences, that action will be repeated as well.

But if you come home and thank your son sincerely for unloading the dishwasher, compliment him on how nice the front lawn looks, and tell your daughter how proud you are that she has kept her room clean for the last few days, how likely is it that these positive actions will be repeated?

Motivate your teen With Small Rewards and Surprises

You might even take it a step further. I’ve been known to reward chores done well with surprise rewards of candy bars, liters of their favorite sodas, or other unexpected treats. Everyone likes a little surprise now and then and you’d be surprised at how much more cheerfully kids will do their chores when you just show them a little appreciation.

I hope this helps you teach your teen to clean.  This is a skill that will stand them in good stead in their adult lives.

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4 Comments on How to Get Your Teen to Do Their Chores

  1. I try to give my jobs that are theirs and then leave them to it. I found most arguments were around the ‘when’. I’d like it done in my timescale and I’ve learnt to accept theirs may be a little different. As long as it gets done eventually it’s ok, right? It works to a point but my boys have a little bathroom between them and I try hard not to go in there as I’m always disappointed. They go for the ‘blitz it once a month’ technique and I’m just not sure that is often enough for a toilet!
    I do try hard to notice the good stuff & say thanks, I think you are right and no one feels motivated to put effort in if your efforts are never appreciated.

    • Ew! Yeah, for boys a once a month blitz is definitely not going to do the job. It’s hard to be a Mom – most days I can barely keep up with my OWN agenda and things I need to get done, let alone chase everyone around to make sure they are doing their chores on schedule. I wish I knew the trick to get them to take ownership of their chores and do them without reminders. Thanks for visiting.

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