Powerful Tips to Organize Your Kids – Chores

Organizing Tips for your kids - This one is for chores. 3 part series

Is there anything more pesky and annoying than trying to get your kids to do their chores? Unless you were born with that magically organized child (I never had THAT kid!).  You are going to be fighting this fight for at least 18 years.

According to my favorite behavioral psychologist Brian Wansink, the best way to motivate someone to do something is to make it easy to do the things you want them to do, and hard to do the things you don’t want them to do.

So, I tried to put some mechanisms in place that would help gently steer my son in the right direction without having to lay down the law and be all heavy-handed.  If you want to train a dog – you’ve got to be smarter than the dog!

Visual Chore Checklist

My son and I are both ADHD and we are both visual people.  This means organization and daily habits are a struggle for both of us.  If we don’t see it, we don’t think about it.

So, I thought about old-fashioned time cards at work. Back in the dark ages – you had to fill out a paper timecard every day with the hours you worked. We were pretty motivated to do this because if we didn’t we knew we wouldn’t get paid.

Also, I needed something that was easy to duplicate.  I’m a busy working Mom and I can’t reinvent the wheel every week.  So I sat down and thought about all the things I wanted him to do in a day – make his bed, brush teeth, all the usual stuff. I put them all on a checklist and put spaces for every day of the week.

I did it in an Excel spreadsheet, so I could print it and make about 20 copies.  As he does every item every day (hopefully!), he checks it off the list and then keeps count of his check marks.

Setting it up this way helps both of us to see how many chores he is doing in a day and how many times he is getting a particular chore done in a week.  Then I put it on the bathroom counter on a clipboard with an attached pen (so it doesn’t wander off).  That way, he is sure to see it several times per day.

Motivating Your Kid to Participate

We also started a new checklist concept this year. ADHD kids need consistent routines. But as the old saying goes – you can lead a boy to college, but you can’t make him think (or something like that!).

However, I needed to create some motivation for him to want to use the checklist every day. So, what does every boy with a pulse want? Video game time. And money.

He could not play ANY video games until a half the items were checked off his list every day.  If he gets them ALL done, he gets and hour of games and a dollar! So he could earn up to $7 a week. It hasn’t been a perfect system and we’ve refined it a bit here and there, but on the whole, it’s worked better than anything else we’ve tried.

Room Organization

Kid’s rooms can sometimes be a nightmare. I know mine always were. I remember my Mom getting mad one day and getting in there with a trash can and a shovel!  One thing that helps is to really cut back on the amount of stuff they have to deal with. It’s just too much and it was overwhelming to me, and completely impossible for my kids to manage.  Several years back, I removed all the toys from their bedrooms and banished them to a separate play area or a storage closet.  Seriously – that was the best decision I ever made. The only things I allow them to have in their rooms are their clothes, books, and a few stuffed animals.  That makes it SO much easier for them to cope with.

I also make sure there is a large laundry hamper and a large trash can. I just recently labeled his drawers and that is also a big help, but you need to go in a couple of times a year and just help them to reorganize and restructure a bit.  Some kids are capable of managing that on their own, but mine were just overwhelmed with a task like that.

On-Line Organization

One thing that has been a big help to me is my Google calendar. I have the ability to set up recurring reminders on both my account and both my son’s accounts. I set up a schedule of reminders to clean the cat boxes, clean their rooms, have my older son and husband check the fluids in the cars, empty the trash cans, and do the vacuuming. That has been a really big help because I’m terrible about remembering to do these mundane things on a set schedule. But my computer remembers for me just fine!

Setting up Consequences

In order to accomplish all this, you need to have some consequences in place for when the kids don’t do the things they are supposed to do. Penalty chores are what works for us.  It is a standing rule that if they don’t do an assigned chore, they not only have to do the original chore the next day, they also have to do a penalty chore of my choosing.  And I save the most unsavory chores for the penalty chores, so it works as a good deterrent.

When my kids were younger, we would have a little motivator. If they didn’t make their beds or do some other simple chore, their brother could do it for them and charge them $1 fee. That’s actually a pretty good incentive because it really ticks them off.  And on the chore checklist, if I catch him marking down anything he hasn’t actually done, there is a two-day penalty of loss of video games. Yes, I’m a mean Mommy sometimes.  But it’s working and it’s saving my sanity, so I declare it a good thing!

Stop by tomorrow and I’ll give you some ideas for getting kids up and out the door in record time!

Post #1 – Organizing their Homework – That’s yesterday’s post

Post #2 – Organizing their Chores – That’s today

Post #3 – Organizing their Morning Routines – coming tomorrow

 


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Comments

  1. Wait, you have bathroom counter space?!

  2. Some great ideas here, Adrian. The idea that a sibling can do the chore and charge the other $1 is one I’ve never heard before. One question that came up in a Moms group recently was how long do you keep these chore incentives going, particularly the monetary ones. Is there some point where you expect them to make the bed and not get anything back? We had quite a conversation on this one!

    • Yes, that is a tough one. I’ve seen the same debate on whether or not you deliver forgotten lunches or homework to school. Both are tough calls and everyone has their own thoughts about it. I don’t tie allowance to chores, but my kids always had a set amount of chores that they were expected to do. If they didn’t do it, I was more in favor of penalty chores or grounding rather than docking allowance. You can’t expect kids to manage money unless you give them some.

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