5 Tips to Manage Teen Boys and Their Beloved Electronics

5 Tips to Manage Teen Boys and their Beloved Electronics @AdriansCrazyLif I think this is a serious problem the parents of many boys struggle with. Here are some tips to help.

Pretty typical picture isn’t it?  Not just for teen boys, but for everyone.  Seems like all of us are spending major amounts of time staring at screens these days – not just phones, but iPads, computers, video games, and TV’s.  It’s to the point where it is getting a little scary.  I never drive to work without seeing people messing with their phones on the FREEWAY!  That is terrifying and I think it makes a good case for the addictiveness of these little doohickies.

If you took a typical family and measured their total screen time for a week.  I don’t think there would be much doubt as to who would be the hands-down winner for screen time – the teenaged boy.

Teen boys seem to have an unusual affinity for video games, particularly violent, action-packed ones.  As the parent of three boys of greatly varying ages, I’m a pretty good test case for this phenomenon.

My stepson (my bonus son) is 33, so he can remember a time before cell phones and personal computers.  But he’s also my biggest gamer.  He spent a lot of time with his grandparents.  Unfortunately, they indulged him in a lot of gaming options and abundant free time to use them.  My two grandsons (14 and 12) are equally addicted.  It makes me sad because they are usually playing games on the computer within seconds of rolling out of bed.

My middle son is 26, so he grew up in the heart of the PC and cell phone era.  So he’s pretty techy, but not overly so. We had moved away from the grandparents by the time he was old enough for games, so we were a lot more controlled about gaming time while growing up.  But once he moved into his own apartment and later got married.  The limits were gone so his game time increased exponentially.

My youngest is 17.  He can’t ever remember a time when cell phones and laptops were not a staple in his life.   We have been the strictest of all with his game time.  There have been several times when he has been without a gaming system at all (the horror!).  It would break so we just wouldn’t replace it until he earned the money for a few one.  I’m delighted that of the three, he is the least inclined to play games.  He does do some PC gaming and he plays his Xbox for a few hours per week, but not necessarily daily.

I think we can all agree teen boys spend TOO much time on games Click To Tweet

Here is my opinion on electronics in general and video games in particular.  I dislike video games intensely.  I think they are undoubtedly addictive, and I think we should minimize the time our kids spend playing with them.

I also think other types of screens are addictive – hence the cell phone on the freeway phenomenon.  But on the other hand, I can’t rule out the possibility that I’m just as addicted to them as anyone else.  When you are running a social media empire (ha!) like I am.  You do end up spending a massive amount of time on your computer and your phone – it’s just the nature of the beast.

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Comments

  1. I’ve got 3 sons and a gamer for a husband. It’s definitely hard managing screen time so it does not take over their lives. My boys have done respecting the work hard then play hard rule. Stopping by from SITS Blogging and hope you join us for Pretty Pintastic and Small Victories Sunday Linkup both going on right now on my blog.

    • That’s good you are keeping their screen time under control. It can be a bit of a problem. I did link up with your Pinastic party. Come back and link up with my Family Fun Friday party every week.

  2. Adrian, thank you for these tips. My boys are still years away from the teenage years, the issue is still there that screens seem to call to them. I am already learning the need to strict boundaries.

    Thanks for sharing!

    Marissa

  3. Great post! My eldest is 13 and I am fighting that battle right now. He has always had limits and it’s all about football and basketball games (not the violent stuff), however, it still becomes addictive type behavior! I feel like the electronic nazi Mama! I don’t like it, but I know it is for his good. In our conversations I always try to bring it back to God, His love for him, and His bigger plan than being lost in the fantasy world of a game. Thanks so much!
    Blessings and smiles,
    Lori

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  5. Great post. My son is 13 and loves his electronics.

  6. Wow, yes, definitely devices time is an issue for boys and girls alike these days. I enforce most of those rules at home, and they do work as long as you stick to them- that’s the hard part! It’s hard, but it’s doable. I agree that some parents just need to say “no” to their kids more often. That’s probably the hardes part of parenting!

    • Yes, it’s exactly like dieting – any program will work if you stick with it, but that’s definitely the hard part. Sounds like you’re on the right track though.

  7. Good tips. My sons really enjoy their games, too. And you are right that they need a certain amount of it to be able to communicate with friends. Mine were sneaking off with their Kindles and playing without my knowledge until I installed a screen lock password that only their father and I know. Now they have to ask first. And they know that they have to have chores and homework finished first and that if it’s nice outside I’m not likely to say yes!

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  2. […] No TV of course, that is the curse of the ADHD kid, but I did allow him to listen to music.  I do that at work too and I find the act of putting on my headphones kind of gives me a cue that it’s time to settle down and focus.  Although as he got older, the cell phone became something of a problem.  If I caught him fooling with it more than once or twice, I would just make him turn off the WiFi on it so he wouldn’t be able to check Emails or get sucked into Google’s clutches.  See my related article on Managing Teen Boys and their Beloved Electronics. […]

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