If you have a messy and disorganized house that is out-of-control, what are excuses do you use? Let’s face it, we are all masters of excuses, and there are a dozens of different excuses for not tackling your household problems. But for every excuse you come up with, someone else has had that same excuse but they’ve managed to turn it around and create a successful lifestyle for themselves and their families.
- I’m too busy
- I work too many hours
- I have small children
- My husband is messy
- I’m just naturally disorganized
- I don’t know where to begin
- I have health problems
Many of these excuses are perfectly legitimate. You can’t really argue with poor health or a grueling work schedule, and most kids and husbands DO tend to be messy, but on the other hand, there are plenty of people with these same problems who manage to find a solution.
Think about what you would tell a friend who had asked you for your help and gave you this excuse. Would you just shrug your shoulders and expect them to just live in a messy house for the rest of their life, or would you start offering some suggestions? Probably. There are very few excuses that stand up to a good stiff dose of honest conversation with someone who cares about you.
Think about what you’d do if your child if they were giving you this excuse about doing their homework or something important? You probably wouldn’t just pat them on the head and say, that’s OK sweetie, we’re fine with you living on the street in a cardboard box someday….
I don’t know about you, but my kids try to pull every excuse in the book – I’m too tired, too busy, I didn’t understand it, it isn’t that important, I needed to do this other thing instead, I don’t know where to start, blah, blah, blah. Sorry pal – life is tough, and I love you, but sit down and do your dang homework!
They do tell me I’m the mean Mom (frequently!). But I’d rather be the mean Mom with the kids who are passing their classes than the nice Mom with kids who are dropping out.
So, take the excuse and look at it carefully. Accept it as a fact, but then start brainstorming some ways to get past it. Get creative – how can you get some help? Maybe you’ll have to retrain the kids and husband to help more around the house. Or hire a neighbor girl to do a few chores. How can you make less of a mess to clean up? If you’re busy, how can you maximize your time? I have a great book called the Clean Team that teaches you to clean a bathroom in 20 minutes flat. If you’re in poor health, can you do brief and frequent cleaning missions scattered throughout the day? A little creative thinking can be a big help.
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