The Dog Whisperer gives me Hope for Parenting

I’m watching the Dog Whisperer and I have to say, this show really gives me hope as a parent.  Do you know why? At the beginning of the program, they show these dogs with all these issues – barking, biting, misbehavior of all types.  And these dogs just seem so out of control and completely hopeless, you wonder how Cesar is ever going to be able to get them under control.


But sure enough, Cesar comes on the scene and with a few simple techniques, the dog just turns around and starts behaving totally differently, literally in minutes.  Yes, I know this is Hollywood and they script the show.  I’m sure they don’t show the failures, or the ones that don’t fit the pattern of the show.   I’m not that naive, but you can tell that there is an element of truth in his methods – and obviously, he gets results with these dogs in a LOT of cases.  
It goes without saying that kids are a lot more complicated than dogs, but it’s been shown time and time again that some very simple techniques work for in a wide variety of situations with people or animals with all kinds of problems.  


Our dog Joe wants Cesar to come
and visit – especially if he brings treats!  


The key seems to be respect, discipline, a genuine caring, and a sense of purpose or accomplishment.  When I watch
 shows like Wife Swap and Nanny 911 – it’s really interesting to see how the kids respond totally differently to someone with a different philosophy and a completely different parenting approach.

One of my favorite books is called “Influencer – the Power to Change Anything” (read it – it’s great!).  They talk about a real place called Delancy Street in San Francisco that has taken thousands of hard-core prisoners and reformed them completely using some very simple techniques centered around trust, purpose, and accountability.  Now these people are running productive businesses in the community and living completely changed lives.  

You just wonder if they took some of these kids that are in trouble, in juvenile hall or whatever and approached sort of like a kid whisperer and gave them that respect and responsibility, and had the expectation that they could do the right thing and could make the positive changes, I think you’d see a big difference in them in a short time.


So, if you have a kid who is showing some problem behaviors, how can you approach them differently to get a different response?  How can you stop butting heads with them and get a dialogue going?  I dunno – maybe you need to go and watch some episodes of the Dog Whisperer.  I think Cesar has the secret!


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Comments

  1. says

    Found you through SITS and poked around a bit- LOVED this post, as both a dog owner and a parent, I think you are on to something. I also think that Nanny 911 (or Caesar) can work because they look at the problem through a fresh set of eyes. In life in general, that can help to gain insight to any problem as well!

  2. says

    Great post! It is true – he is amazing with dogs. I think the key to remember is to be patient & consistent. I stopped by from the SITS.
    Have a great Saturday!
    Joanne

  3. says

    that is a great post…and very true. Often I have to stop and think how I am going to go about parenting or disciplining my son to make it truly effective. what do I expect of him.

    Happy Saturday!

  4. says

    Wonderful parallel. I think you’re absolutely correct. And we need to be willing to change things up and try something new for each child, sometimes each situation. Parenting is definitely not one size fits all.

    Stopping by from SITS. Have a lovely weekend.

  5. says

    I love this article. So many parents struggle with their kids (shows like nanny 911 are indicative if something likely of likely epidemic proportions in America). I think parents often struggle so much to be liked and loved that they forget to mentor and discipline.

    In that way, Cesar teaches us what is important: love, respect, and boundaries supported by a healthy dose of communication (which perfectly aligns with accountability and with continuing to grow love and respect while clarifying those boundaries). Absolutely amazing post. :)

    Visiting from SITS.
    Heather @ Exalted Peacock

  6. says

    Oh Cesar is awesome! Since I have no kids, just animals, I always wonder if owning a pet really does help prepare you for parenthood. My hub and I definately have found out the type of disapliners we are and what we need to work on. My dog knows he can get away with anything around me, but he is definately a mama’s boy!